'It's encouraging when you see a profile where a man specified books, music and fitness as interests because it makes them appear well rounded,' says online dater Lauren Keith, who is currently dating someone she met on Plenty Of Fish.'It's off-putting when a man only seems interested in going out with his mates and getting drunk.I think it also shows that they're actually thinking about what women may want to hear and putting a real effort into their profile.
There are a few profile-writing strategies to optimize the likelihood of interest from potential matches. Keep in mind the rules of first-date conversation and apply them to how you introduce yourself to strangers online, too. Keep your profile upbeat and focused on all the great things you have to offer and are looking for in a new relationship.
Here are ten things to never write in an online profile: 1. Insulting the method — or the people using the method — of finding love that you’re currently giving a try is a huge turn-off. Don’t lie about your height, age or weight: you’ll be found out soon enough. (Hint: No one’s profile says “seeking bitter pessimist.”) 6. If your profile is ten times longer than everyone else’s, it won’t be given much attention. They shouldn’t be able to identify your specific place of work, home address, last name or personal contact information from your profile. Don’t demand that your future partner love, worship, and adore you.
You’ll come across as condescending and judgmental. Don’t pretend to have a better job than you do, or that you’re more prepared for long-term commitment than you currently are. Be concise, clear, and watch out for typos and grammatical errors. Related to #6: Don’t be too vague or use too many clichéd phrases. Be careful to screen your photos, too: Don’t upload a pic of yourself in front of your new home, for example. Don’t list the qualities you believe you “deserve.” Instead, focus on what you have to offer. If you can’t put the time into filling out a simple dating profile, why would an interested guy/gal assume you’d put the time investing into getting to know them? My friends could better answer this for you.” Good luck!
Have some selfie respect.'The new research by dating site Zoosk comes to the conclusion that while honesty really is the best policy for men, it's not such a good idea for women to talk about exes and children.
They should wait to divulge details later.'I prefer it when women wait a bit before revealing too much about their past relationships or children and let us get to know them as an individual first,' says Chris Hines, who met his girlfriend on Plenty Of Fish.'In the end it’s about you as a couple and if you find out that you're suited then the other person will probably be more accepting of the rest.
Too soon though and you might not get the chance to show how awesome you are.In the end the right person will accept you for who you are, baggage and all.'Profiles with 100 to 200 words received 10 per cent more messages, and users with positive identifiers such as confident and outgoing, received 23 per cent more incoming messages and 4 per cent more replies to their outgoing ones.Don’t bite the hand that might be feeding you your soulmate. You don’t need to share all your dirty little secrets in your profile, but you shouldn’t use deception to lure dates either. Never list what you’re looking for money-wise or baby-wise in a relationship. Everyone likes “having fun” and would list their musical tastes as “eclectic.” You’re certainly not the only person who “can’t live without oxygen, friends, and family.” Fill your profile with details that reflect you as an individual. Related: Don’t provide a list of dating rules or expectations — unless you don’t want anyone to contact you. Spurred on by the optimism that the New Year brings, 1 million Britons are expected to get online for a date today - the first day back in the office after the Christmas break.This time last year saw a 94 per cent increase in people singing up compared to their daily average.'In my experience, selfies on dating sites either involve the guy snapping a quick picture of himself as he loads his profile (no effort made) or stripping off in a desperate attempt to show off his buff body while trying out a moody male model look (far too much effort made).'I'd much rather see a picture of a nice smiling guy on a night out with friends or on holiday than one who has clearly spent too much time in front of a mirror in his bedroom.